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It was bound to come up

We haven't touched on anything racial yet in our blog but now i feel we'll ease into it with care. Interracial dating is a taboo subject amongst black guys and black women well actually probably between white men and white women also. Since we want to enlighten women on how we think, I feel we should talk about it. This post will be from the black male perspective. We will say some light things and answer some small questions on the matter to prep for the the deeper stuff in the future. Here are just a few questions that black women have asked.



+Why do you go out with white women?


Because white women are women too. They have a booty and tittays just like black women do, so why wouldn't i like that?


+Do you feel like they can fulfill your needs as a black man?

Hell yeah!! When i need some food, what does a black woman do? She cooks (sometimes). White women do too (might be a little bland, but its food nevertheless). When I need to have an intellectual conversation, what does a black woman do, she talks to me. White women do too. You see the pattern.


+Do white women smell like wet dogs when their hair gets wet?


They smell like wet dogs as much as black women smell like chicken. Get it.


+Why cant you find a good black woman?


Why cant i find a good white, or hispanic, or asian woman? Women are women no matter where you are on this planet.


+Don't you feel like a black woman understands you better?


Not at all. There was a white girl i went to school with and we shared a lot of the same experiences growing up. She played sports and i played sports, she liked cartoons and i did too. We got along well. I started dating the black girl from around the corner and she didn't get me at all.


+Are you scared of a strong black woman?

No, and i'm not scared of a strong white woman either.


+How do you feel when you are with a white woman and other black women see you?


Feels fine. Nothing to be ashamed of or to hide. And no, it doesn't make us feel better or that we've got a trophy or we've done better in life. Any woman can be a trophy, black or white or whatever the race may be. A good looking white woman is just as good as a good looking black woman or asian or hispanic, and so on…



I think the moral is that its not racial, Its a personal choice or preference. The gift of choice is one of the greatest gifts God gave us. Being the same race is just a thing that two people have in common such as liking the same kinds of movies or eating the same kind of ice cream. It doesn't make two people completely right for each other or mean that they should be together. Its just a factor in the decision making process. If dating interracially is not YOUR thing, then so be it. But If you like someone you have to give them a fair shot, no matter what. You wouldn't say " i cant go out with him because he doesn't have hazel eyes", so you cant say "he shouldn't go out with her because she's white", same difference!! Well i guess you could say those things, but it would be YOUR personal choice, just don't burden someone else with that choice.

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Are you Serious?

Finally, I have arrived. Sorry ladies for the delay. Mr. YES!!!

This next topic is one that will require a lot of your input by the end. It's something that men always have a hard time grasping because for the most part its something we rarely do. Ladies answer this for me, How come we can go to a restaurant and the one time you get a bad meal out of the hundreds of times we've been to this place your thought upon leaving is "I'm never coming back here." How come it is so easy to leave and not have the slightest regret about not returning? Do you know where this is going...??? Yes I'm talking about the dude that is a complete A$$hole but you go back time after time like a FREAKIN...umm... freakin..GOT DAMN IT I don't have a name for it but you know what I mean!!! It pisses me off because the other side to this story is that there is a guy you always come running and crying to after he plays you. I HAVE BEEN THIS GUY!!! And I must say the first 5 times you came to me sobbing and in distress I genuinely felt sorry for you. I gave you honest unbiased advice and it seemed like you were on the path to enlightenment. I have never been more WRONG in all my 34yrs!!! Now I have to be brutally honest because I'm starting to feel like the thing I don't have a name for because I keep listening and comforting you. So let's break this down:

1. Dude gives you good d__k. I understand you are completely weak because to you the sex which you think is love is soooooooooo good. Guess what??? He has this same type of sex with the chic he is really into.
2. He has all the physical attributes. TALL, allow me to digress for a second, WHAT THE FU@K DOES TALL HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING? Are you planning to play basketball with this dude every weekend or something? Do you like being in the movies and instead of laying your head on his shoulder you would prefer his elbow because he is FREAKIN 6'5"!!! Sorry just never understand that but its a quality on quite a few lists. Muscular/In Shape understandable.
3. HE is so funny. This is not completely your fault because humor often makes people comfortable so because of this you are more vulnerable and accepting of a$$hole behavior.
4. You just LOVE him and though you try to break it off you just CAN'T!!!
That is the biggest BULL$H#T EVER!!! The truth is that YOU are really SELFISH!!! YES YOU ARE SELFISH!!! It has nothing to do with the dude and how much you love him. You have painted a picture of the guy that you always wanted and YOU have made this guy into him. So no matter how fu@k#d up he is, you will continue to give him a pass until HE MOVES ON. That's right you will give him a chance no matter what Because you want what you want and It's HIM. When he wants to go, you'll cancel your plans and go. If he doesn't like one of your girlfriends you'll be extra careful not to tell him about when the two of you went out the other night. ARE YOU SERIOUS??? Who is this guy??? You are selfish because you get all the physical on the surface things from him and get all the emotionally comforting nice guy qualities from me. You have the best of both worlds. Well, guess what I'm dumping you!!! Not because I don't care about you but because you would do it to me for HIM and you wouldn't think twice about it just like my favorite restaurant!!!

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CRASH AND BURN!!!

"I CAN'T STAND YOU, HE MAKES ME SO SICK, I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!" These don't seem like the sentiments of a long-lasting romance, more like the last words he/she heard or stated as the gun went off and the neighbors are left bewildered saying "but they seemed so happy." What is it that drives a wedge between a relationship that we initially thought held so much potential and promise? If we both believed we were building something great when it begins to crumble whose to blame? And if we feel the car speeding towards the edge of a cliff will we both try everything possible to stop the oncoming disaster or will we step on the gas in hopes of the fiery end to our misery? The question that needs to be proposed is "How did we get here" For the sake of understanding the points made let "I" represent "men" and "YOU" represent "women". So in the beginning YOU thought that I was sweet, considerate, thoughtful, attentive blah, blah so on and so on. For the most part everything YOU were looking for YOU were confident that I had or had the potential to attain. I thought that you were intelligent, independent, supportive, caring, beautiful etc. These qualities alone were enough to get us through the first year without any major setbacks. In our 2ND yr we faced a few more challenges but for the most part it was smooth sailing. The 3rd year is where things become CRITICAL!!! WE are settled in. WE are both comfortable with each other. WE have grown, had numerous experiences and memories together. So what will put US on the road to DISASTER? In this 3rd year WE will face a challenge. Some problem or adversity will arise that will require both of our full effort and understanding but WE won't pull together and resolve this amicably. I will feel like I gave to much, YOU will feel like I didn't give enough, and ultimately WE will both LOSE. This is where, the previous 2yrs of our relationship was part of our downfall, we didn't have any experiences dealing with characteristics in one another that WE absolutely COULD NOT STAND!!! WE thought that WE loved everything about each other but the truth was WE loved all the good things about US. There were subtle signs of things I/YOU noticed but we didn't address them because YOU/I was the "ONE" and it didn't matter in the long run, so I/YOU thought. But now, I feel like your questions sound more like demands. YOU feel unappreciated and emotionally neglected. I feel like the sex is boring, YOU feel like the sex is just sex. Everything has now become a tug-of-war a power struggle to have things more the way I/YOU like them. Remember those cars we had in driving school back in the day with a set of controls for the instructor? Imagine this car is our relationship we both have steering wheels both have gas pedals and brakes we both have the ability to control where this relationship goes. So if I go left and you're on board with going left YOU don't have to touch the wheel WE simply go left. But if YOU want to go right and I don't want to go right, now we have a problem. However, there is a simple solution to this problem I can let you proceed right and SACRIFICE my want or I can grab my wheel and force it left. But now our car/relationship will be stuck. And this is exactly what happens. I/YOU refuse to sacrifice something that will now hinder our relationship from progressing and running like the well oiled new car it once was. The sacrifice has to be made willingly otherwise it is simply something I/YOU was forced to do and will resent later. WE have to make sure there is balance and the sacrifices don't become one-sided. The car must not constantly go in one direction without regard for the other. If only one person drives all the time there is really no need for the other to be there. Ultimately, WE are in control. WE are the ones to blame if WE start speeding towards the edge of the cliff. WE both have brakes in our car, if something isn't right WE have to stop and address the issue, or we can simply ride it out until we go over the cliff or the car dies!!!!!!!!!!!


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"Do What You Say"

So as I sit here for the 2nd week in a row waiting for the blog from MR. Yes!!! I began to think about a complaint I here all the time from women about men. "He said we were going to go on a trip here"...."he said he was going to take my car to get an oil change"..."he said we were going to try this new restaurant instead of the stupid place he likes to go to" Ladies you have a LEGITIMATE argument here. Men can become complacent in the relationship and tend to OVERpromise and UNDERdeliver. Yes this is frustrating and annoying but there is a remedy for it. Don't simply give in and go with the "independent woman b.s." and do it yourself. (Independent Woman Bull Sh#t will be explained in a future blog stay tuned) You have to hold him accountable and MAKE him do it. He expects you to meet his expectations and therefore he must meet yours. When you take the "whatever I'll just do it myself approach", not only do you give him an easy way out but you are creating a divide in the relationship because you will feel like you are carrying the load and aren't appreciated. I guarantee that your man appreciates what you do but, if you do everything, its contributing to his laziness. Now there is a fine line between "getting him to do his part" and "NAGGING!!!" If you ask your man to do something don't leave it open-ended give him a timeline such as "could you get this done by Friday" If you ask for something on Tuesday morning and it doesn't have to be done that day, don't ask on Tuesday evening did he do it. Chances are he didn't because it wasn't specified, not to mention we are not "right away movers" like you are. Give him a deadline, check in half-way to the deadline and then follow-up when its supposed to be done. If it's not done don't give him the "well when are you going to do it" in the pissed off tone, this will probably put him on the defensive and cause him to reel of the reasons or excuses that he didn't do it. Simply ask him when does he think he will get to it, and remind him that its something you really need or want. Your results will be much more positive. If this doesnt work well....normally I wouldn't advise this but clearly your man needs a little more motivation in getting the job done. You may have to TAKE AWAY some of his PRIVILEGES if you know what I mean ;) Hope this helps


Mr. Editor

P.S. MR. YES!!!, Where the F is my blog???

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How to Keep Him Satisfied

THE FOREWORD given to you by Mr. Industry

Many times women find themselves asking "why is he doing this?",why is he acting this way?", why can't I get him to do that?". I had a conversation with an older gentleman the other day and he confirmed with me what all men know about each other, but women seem to be missing or forget. No matter what point in our lives we are, The fact is, "Men are simple" , and they always will be.

We don't need constant repetitive affirmations or redundant attention. Actually that's kind of annoying to us. Listen to the great words of the Notorius B.I.G. We are good if we have a woman that can "suck a good d__k and cook a steak up." Ok, obviously we need a little more than that, and truthfully the steak isnt really all that important if you become a professional at the first LOL, but the idea is what you need to pay attention to. You see no matter if we are young or old, when we say we are tired, we just are. Or, when we say we don't feel like talking, we just don't feel like it. There is no underlying meaning to these kind of things that you have to figure out. We just say what we mean (unless you back us into a corner and ask us do you look fat). There's not too much to figure out when it come to us.

When it comes to getting us to comply, remember we are like mules, if you keep the carrot dangling in front of us we'll follow it.(BOARD SECRET #2) So maybe when you can't get your man to do something, make sure you still have the carrot there! Simplicity is the key! And now I would like to introduce the ever so distinguished Mr. Quality........

Thanks for the the introduction sir, and thanks to Mr. Everything we have briefly discussed the main reasons why men cheat. So I guess the next question for ladies should be, "how to keep a man satisfied in the relationship?" At this point I have to CRUSH the age old adage that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Ladies, this is 2010 and thanks to the invention of the microwave, fast food, and just as many cooking channels and tutorials as sports channels, it is no longer a challenge to prepare a meal. By no means should those of you who do cook change your routine. Believe me, he truly appreciates it! But I do believe it is necessary to address that their may need to be a shift in priority. This being said, there are really two paths to his heart: his mind and ______(fill in the blank).(D__k for the slow women who would have filled in the blank with something else and completely missed the point)
Men just like women are attracted to ambition, intelligence, and good conversation. This in fact captures our attention and keeps us feeling as lucky as we are to have you. This attracts us in the beginning and keeps us going throughout the relationship. However, it is important to also give your man's ear a rest. I cant speak for all but most of us don't always need updates every 10 or 15 minutes of the day. Thank goodness for text messaging because answering every call would probably do it for me! Don't get me wrong, we are concerned about your day and well being but we also need our personal time just as much. We need our man cave time as much as you need your spa day.
So it now comes down to sex. Its probably one of the most important factors. I took it upon myself and asked a number of married men and they all had only one major complaint; NOT ENOUGH SEX. Notice I said "not enough" because most women get the fact that their mate enjoys freakiness. Its the fact that we want consistent freaky sex that is the problem. And ladies, we should agree that sex starts before the bedroom. Men are completely visual and anticipate an erotic steamy love scene with our own playboy pin up. So no points for flannel pjs, hair rollers, old sweatssuits and if you have some raggedy gym socks on its most certainly an ESPN night for me. LMAO.
So in conclusion, if you throw good communication in the equation, then there should be no reason why you cant have and keep a great thing going. If you ever need a quick guide just remember the equation: good brain + good sex= happy man:) LOL.


Sincerely,
Mr. Quality

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Mr. Editor

Why Men Cheat?/Why You Need to Be a Freak pt. 2

Ok, first of all, I’d like to thank all who participated in this week’s discussion. Before I elaborate about your the comments, I should give you the break down on my three central reasons to “Why Men cheat? Why you always need to be a freak.
1. For the Game of it- Please understand, that guys often imitate the actions that other guys do. This is the real. We all have been taught by someone. This particular type of man understands the ratio of women to men in America and plays on it. Until that man reaches a level of maturity (that a woman can not demand or make him reach) then this is the lifestyle that gives him the thrill. For many of us men, we were raised by our mothers and famillies who preached to us “take your time, you don’t have to rush into anything” or “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” attitude. This particular dude took those sayings to heart
2. She could fulfill his fantasy- What ever it may be, she has it. (Hint Ladies: Guys may be more willing to share these uninhibited fantasy’s within 6 months to a year of knowing you, some maybe sooner, Mr. Everything’s advice is to start conversation about it early). Understand that men and women are bombarded with images daily. Some of us understand that all images that we see aren’t real, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t fantasize about them. So make us fantasize about you. Find out what makes us tick…and use it to your advantage.
3. They’ve become emotionally closer. Ok, she took your spot. Believe it or not, men can be sensitive. LOL, but its true. If your man, or ex has declared this reason to you then it’s probably the flat out truth. A man doesn’t release something of this nature if he isn’t secure in his reasoning. Advice: Take the mature role. It may hurt because you have invested so much, but move on because you know that you can satisfy and please another. Be honest with yourself and weigh your mistakes. If there are none then its “ON TO THE NEXT ONE”


Thanks for the Love,
Ur Mr. Everything


KIFAT

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Why Men Cheat? Why you always need to be a freak? Pt 1

A special hello goes out to every beautiful woman that has taken the opportunity to view our site. Before I begin, I would like to say how amazing women truly are and have been for centuries. Every last woman deserves happiness in an infinite degree. Ok ladies I’m going in now. There are inevitably Three Reasons why Men cheat…and here they are. 1. For the Game of It 2. She fulfill's his Fantasy 3. They’ve become emotionally involved. Through my personal experiences, these are the central reasons. It’s really not complicated. The first and maybe the hardest thing a woman has to do is get to the root of who she’s dealing with. She has to get to know and understand her man, boyfriend etc. Now ladies, I don’t mean spending time, going out to every restaurant in your city to be on the "scene". Instead, I mean thoroughly engaging in stimulating dialog. When and only when he opens up, the floodgates will flow with information about him that will last a lifetime. Ladies, you have to know whom your dealing with. Ask yourself, how did you meet? What was your first conversation about? There are many layers to a man so please understand that you must be secure within yourself and have patience. Secondly, Ladies, please understand that sex has become a core theme in our culture. So the “Discrete Freak” attitude won’t get you too far today. I know this statement will draw much backlash, but i'm prepared to back it up. The competition is FIERCE! By no means am I saying to degrade yourself, but please know yourself sexually and don’t be embarrassed to show it to your man. You have to be the “Best He’s Ever Had”. Well this is a quick snapshot of Mr. Everything’s thoughts. I'll elaborate after I see some of your responses stay tuned. Believe me this is only the beginning.


Thanks for the love,
Ur Mr. Everything
KIFAT

Class is in Session

If you went to school and studied one subject for 20 years, and you were reasonably intelligent would you consider yourself an eXpert? Women think back to your very first interest in a male. Now consider your current age and ask yourself "Why don't I understand Him?" The answer is very simple, maybe YOU WEREN'T PAYING ATTENTION IN CLASS. I hear women say all the time "that's what men do", "they are all the same" as if men were part of some clandestine plot to perpetually screw women over. Another question that always seems to surface when discussing males is "Why do men cheat?" The fact of the matter is we have been giving you signals from our very first interactions but maybe you didn't notice them. Our goal is to point out the not so obvious and help you understand us a little better. Oh and by the way "that is what men do" and "we are all the same" at some point, but that really shouldn't matter, what you should be concerned with is YOUR SECRET POWER, and that you all can be eXperts when it comes to men. I bet you had no idea....LOL this is BOARD SECRET #1 Women Can Control Men. Shhhhhhhh don't tell that to your girlfriends because they will use it to control your man ;) Not all your girlfriends just the ones that are secretly jealous of you and often times cause you to not get or keep your man. And sorry ladies your man always has an attraction for at least one of your girlfriends. Damn Ni$$as LOL I digress, that's another conversation. Before we can reveal to you your power, there are some variables we need to discuss. So without further ado, Allow Me to Introduce Mr. Everything.

Launch Date

I know you all have been anxiously awaiting the debut for this blog. We have finally worked out the details and are looking forward to providing you with the sound advice and details of the male psyche, that you may not get when having pillow talk with your man ;) or venting to your girlfriend ;) or man bashing over a bottle of Reisling with your girlfriends ;) I could go on and on.....Stay Tuned MARCH 1, 2010!!! HERE WE GO

Sincerely,

Mr. Industry
Mr. Everything
Mr. Quality
Mr. YES!!!
MR. "X"