tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4340792136243169575.post4683282070154614076..comments2010-07-11T22:02:00.831-07:00Comments on THE BOARD: Are you Serious?Mr. "X", Mr. Everything, Mr. YES!!!, Mr. Quality, Mr. Industryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14520299931071881926noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4340792136243169575.post-54856374581423873402010-06-08T20:12:36.184-07:002010-06-08T20:12:36.184-07:00Lynsey thanks for your insightful comment. I can t...Lynsey thanks for your insightful comment. I can tell you are a friend thats not going to tell the party involved what they want to hear but tell her what she needs to hear. If more women would listen to the friend that has their best interest in mind instead of thinking "oh she's just hating because she doesn't have a man" they would be in much better relationships.<br /><br /><br />Becky thanks for your comment as well. Glad we made you think lol. The use of the restaurant was only to draw the comparison as men see it. The restaurant wasn't so much the point it was more so the commitment level of the woman involved to the a$$hole. So much so that she was willing to slight her friends in order to appease the guy. Keep reading and letting us know your thoughts ladies, it's appreciated<br /><br />Mr. YES!!!Mr. "X", Mr. Everything, Mr. YES!!!, Mr. Quality, Mr. Industryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14520299931071881926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4340792136243169575.post-18095645530670495912010-06-08T13:16:15.612-07:002010-06-08T13:16:15.612-07:00Wow! First post I've read here and it really ...Wow! First post I've read here and it really made me think. Great blog!!! <br /><br />Although I'm not the type of woman to stick around in these situations... trust me, if you are an a$$ to me in the slightest, you will be kissing mine on my way out your door... I do have many friends who are like the woman you describe in your post.<br /><br />For starters, men are not restaurants... hopefully. I would imagine most women consider their choice of significant other to be more important than where they eat. They also have time invested in a relationship and may consider that although their man has acted like an idiot once, the entire relationship is not worth giving up on. <br /><br />Having said that, if the guys is a repeat offender, you are better off without him. Why would you stay? <br /><br />For sex... ridiculous... any man can be trained to pleasure you in bed. <br /><br />For looks... c'mon... even movie stars get dumped and they're probably far better looking than whoever you're with.<br /><br />For a sense of humor... there are comedy clubs if you really need a good laugh, and plenty of funny guys out there that won't treat you like crap.<br /><br />For love... simple... if you love yourself, you will expect a person who loves you to treat you with respect and kindness... dump the loser and learn to love yourself so you can find someone who will treat you well.<br /><br />Oh... and don't ever eat at that restaurant again... it's not even remotely worth the risk!Becky Hollandhttp://becky-holland.com/Blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4340792136243169575.post-2794909773750885772010-06-08T10:08:48.696-07:002010-06-08T10:08:48.696-07:00Sometimes it's easier to enable others to vict...Sometimes it's easier to enable others to victimize us than to step out of our fear and into our own skin. Sometimes its less scary to be in a bad relationship with an asshole than to begin a good relationship with yourself. Sometimes its easier to stay afloat in the froth of drama than to drown in the truth. Reality is thick and difficult to navigate. Sometimes its easier to stay in the matrix. There comes a point where we have to decide to be a good friend. a REal friend. One who lives in REALITY. And the reality is that we all have a choice. I choose not to enable myself or my friends to pass the blame for a choice they continually make. Move on. Cut ties. Yes - please mourn. But keep going.... When you're going through hell DONT STOP. Move through it and drop the bags as you go. Live free and make new choices. Maybe you will think I'm a bad friend if I tell you the truth that you need to let it go and that I've given my opinion and choose not to enable you to stay mired down. If you choose to stay mired down, I choose to leave. It's all in love.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187345497861885235noreply@blogger.com